Domestic Drama: Control the Clutter Already

Domestic Drama: Control the Clutter Already

Cleaning_LadyI’m a self-admitted neat and control freak. I’m not ashamed of it, either.

You see, I’m ADHD to the umpteenth power, so having structure and  order in my life helps me to manage my ADHD.

It’s funny how people who come to my home comment on how clean it is. I smile and say thank you, but inside I know it’s because of my secret.

Usually, people with ADHD are quite the opposite. They are the people at work with the messy desks; they are the friends with the junky cars; or, the best friend with the out-of-control bedroom, and don’t even think about the closet.

But I’m different, and I think it has something to do with the control freak in me.

But there are those very rare occasions, where my house does get downright messy–as a matter of fact, I’m in one right now. When I’m seriously sick, in a funk or stressed out, the last thing I care about is cleaning my house. Continue reading

Relationship Drama: 5 Ways to Get Over Your Ex

Relationship Drama: 5 Ways to Get Over Your Ex

Updated 05/26/2018

5 Ways to Get Over Your Ex

Got dumped? Can’t get over your ex? You’re not alone. Rejection never feels good, but, as they say, every cloud has a silver lining.

If the relationship wasn’t healthy or going anywhere, then chances are the breakup is a blessing in disguise–even if the breakup wasn’t your idea.

Even though you didn’t want the breakup, you may know, underneath the pain of rejection, that breaking up is the best thing for the both of you.

Either way, here are some effective tips for getting over the relationship and your ex:

#1) The Relationship is Over–Accept It and Move On.

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5 Ways to Get Over Your Ex: #1 The Relationship is Over – Accept It and Move On

Initially, you may be angry, hurt and disappointed that the relationship wasn’t successful.  Your feelings are normal and expected. Therefore, experience those feelings authentically: cry, shout and pout, if you have to–but only for a little while. You are entitled.

What Not To Do:
Don’t play desperate and start begging your ex to get back together.  If someone says they don’t love you anymore; they need more space; or, they aren’t ready for a committed relationship, believe them.

You are worth more than he is willing to give (right now). You deserve someone who likes, loves, adores and respects you and what you bring to the relationship. If he doesn’t see your value and worth, you’re better off without him. Period.

Under no circumstance do you give him any power over you after the breakup, so don’t be desperate Dorine, calling his house 50 billion times. Do not text him or “conveniently” show up at his favorite spots.

Desperate (and drama) is not sexy.

Take control of your post-breakup feelings by NOT contacting him. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS. DO NOT CONTACT HIM.

If you start acting desperate, you further lower your worth in his eyes.

As bad as you may feel, these post-breakup feelings are temporary. Accept the breakup and move on with your life.
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